• counseling,  habits,  therapy

    A beautiful “no”

    NO. Go back and look at the previous word again. NO. What do you experience when you look at that word? What do you feel? What memories come up? Looking into your past experiences with that word, when you’ve used it, when you should have used it but didn’t, when you received it, and what it really means to you matters very much. It can either empower you to continue using that word, knowing you stand for what’s right for you, or it can stress you out just thinking about saying “no” to anybody, including yourself, your cat, or that person selling you a subscription to the newspaper. Often times,…

  • brain,  counseling,  habits,  therapy

    You can do it

    How to create a habit in 3 hard steps Please note the word “hard” in the sentence above. That was not a mistake. Often times we read articles and look for things like “3 easy steps to…”, however, in today’s post, I will not be sharing easy steps to create habits to make your life better, but hard steps. Hard AND Doable. Why? Because changing and creating habits is a hard thing to do, and you are not going to feel like it, but you can and if you are determined to thrive, you can create positive habits. Here’s a simple explanation of how your brain works when it comes to…

  • counseling,  therapy

    Why Therapy?

    Five subtle reasons to see a therapist The words “counseling” or “therapy” can sound intimidating to some and safe for others and at the same time there can be a stigma attached to it. Truthfully, it can be downright scary to share inner thoughts and feelings with a stranger. Maybe you have negative associations of going to therapy as a child, witnessed your parents’ divorce despite counseling, or have had a terrible experience with a counselor yourself. I’m sorry. Whatever your case may be, here are five subtle reasons meeting with a therapist is a good idea.  One. Your friends aren’t helping (because it’s not their job). Yes, they are…